Love Like You Have Never Been Hurt

Who ever said, "Love Like You Have Never Been Hurt," has obviously never been hurt. I mean really, who likes to be hurt? I sure don't. In fact I can only count on one hand the number of times I have really been hurt, because I just won't let myself feel that way. I don't like to be hurt, therefore, I prevent myself from being in circumstances where that may be a possibility. Like my previous long distance most of the time, long lasting relationship with an amazing guy. We just communicated enough to keep it going and when things fizzled a bit, there was no hurt, just an "oh, well." Which really is how most of my relationships have been, because, well, that is how it has worked the best for me. But I guess when someone comes along who you want to give it your all and things seem rocky, I get a bit scared of the possibility of being hurt. It is so much easier to be busy and not make it work, because well, that is what I have done thus far, but really is that what is going to bring lasting happiness? Probably not. So my mom said to me today that if things happen to not work out with my current relationship she is really worried that I am going to put up an even thicker wall and no man will ever be able to tear it down. And do you know, mama knows best and is absolutely right. I have learned in my life if the wall is up, it doesn't hurt as bad. You ask, where did that all come from? A friend of mine just put that quote on facebook and I was thinking about it, so I blogged about it. Gave me something to blog about.

However, we did have a wonderful stake conference. I really enjoyed the Saturday night session. I often wonder if people actually go home and change the way they do things after hearing those talks and feeling the spirit which was so strong. I am talking about making sure they have FHE, family scripture study and prayer. I would hope that if I had a family I would already be doing those things as I am while single, but maybe I would be a little more diligent or rather more heartfelt, which is maybe what I need to do myself now. I really enjoyed our Stake Presidents talk. He basically talked to those several couples in the stake who are newly engaged, which of course isn't me, so don't be getting any ideas. He talked about how when you are single and dating you each have a different vision, but as soon as you marry, you should have the same vision. I could totally relate, because it does seem in dating, two people come from two different backgrounds, regardless if you were or weren't raised in the church and it is hard when dating to have the same vision, however, maybe I am just missing the point and in dating you should be focusing on the same things too. I don't know, you would think after dating as much as I have that I would be a pro and would know it all, but I don't and probably never will. The thing that keeps coming back to me was President Bakers statement, "Relationships are a lot of work." Ya think? I sometimes ask myself, is it worth the work? I see my parents and the wonderful relationship that they have and I have to answer, yes, it must be worth it. And so, I guess I will keep trying, even though I think I gave up today...I'll take President Bakers advice and will work a little harder and try to work on that vision thing.

Every Woman Should...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own,even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE a youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal,that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW how to quit a job, break up with a lover,and confront a friend without;ruining the friendship...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW when to try harder...and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW that she can't change the length of her calves,the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW that her childhood may not have been perfect..but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW how to live alone . even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW whom she can trust, whom she can't,and why she shouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW where to go...be it to her best friend's kitchen table...or a charming inn in the woods...when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW what she can and can't accomplish in a day...a month...and a year...

Green Day!

To my loyal 5 readers: I apologize for not blogging. My only excuse is that well, actually I don't have a good excuse. With it being a holiday and all I have been thinking since early this morning of what this day means to me. Actually, I just keeping thinking of what a fun mom I have. When we were kids she would put brocolli in our hair to top off our green outfits. I always remember coming home to sugar cookies with green frosting and green sprinkles and of course she always made the dreaded corned beef with cabbage and only for my brother Troy who liked it. And we always had green jello. I love jello all flavors, but green isn't my favorite! So today when I got ready to go to the gym I had to put my green St. Patricks day socks on that I bought at Target. Actually I have several pairs, because they match my green scrubs, so it wasn't like I had to search for the one and only pair, because I have so many of them. I call them my lucky socks and always wear them when I work my weekend nights hoping for a good night. So yes, I did look a little odd in my tight black capri's and my royal blue Kentucky shirt, but at least I have the St. Patricks day spirit and I was at the gym for a whole 2 hours. I wish I was as fun as my mom is, but for now I have no one to make sugar cookies with green frosting and green sprinkles and green jello for, so maybe I will just have to settle for a Reuban sandwhich to celebrate the rest of the day. Three years ago I was home for St. Patricks day, which was the day I met my first nephew. I bought him the cutest St. Patricks day shirt. If I was on my other computer, I would have uploaded pictures from that day, but since I'm not, you will just have to imagine it. Happy St. Patricks day to you all!